Month: January 2013


These tips were shared with me and Im passing them on to you


Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.


1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.


1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

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This is my 26th Blog of the Ultimate Challenge

Shes almost here, SPRING!

I can’t wait for spring to get here! I started my summer/spring shopping and cant wait to rock my outfits, heres the 2013 spring color palatte.


Heres a little inspiration to get you started with your spring shopping for 2013.

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The is my 25th post of the Ultimate Blog challenge

Review: Nutri Bullet

So for the past 7 months ive been working on a better me, I run, lift weights, and try to eat healthier. I drink smoothies often so my hubby decided for my birthday he would get me a really nice juice blender. After reading reviews on many blenders/juiciers he decided the Nutri Bullet was the perfect fit for me. He bought mine from Best Buy you can also buy it from Amazon and many other stores, it goes for about $99.00 to $124.00.

  • Effortlessly pulverizes fruits, vegetables, superfoods and protein shakes into a delicious, smooth texture
  • High-torque power base and 600-watt motor
  • Power, patented blade design and cyclonic action combine to extract all nutrients from food helping to achieve the healthiest lifestyle possible
  • Includes a power base, 1 tall cup, 2 short cups, 1 flat blade and 1 emulsifying blade, 2 re-sealable lids, pocket nutritionist and manual with recipes
  • More power, more capacity


Today was my first day using it, I decided to add:

  • Strawberries
  • Raspberries
  • pineapple
  • Green leaves
  • Vanilla Protein Powder

After you add everything you add water to the max line, turn it on and blend.

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So far I like it,  adding the vanilla protein I think made it taste a little sweeter which I really liked. Bonus points for the extra cups that come with it so you can take it on the go. I will update date you in a few weeks on how my new Nutri Bullet has been working out.

Do you use the Nutri Bullet, how do you like it and share some of your favorite recipes with us!

This is my 24th post of the Ultimate Blog Challenge

Who says converse arent chic ;-)

I had the pleasure to attend the Imaging USA 2013 Expo and let me tell you it was awesome! Any vendor you can think of was there. There were so many products and it was great to have hands on and not just see the products from a catalog. I was a kid in the candy store and at first a little over whelmed from all the vendors. This would be my first time visiting such an awesome expo but I had no clue what to wear! After sending a message to another fellow photographer she advised me on the dress code. I decided to throw on my new H&M slacks I caught on clearance for $15.00. With the slacks I added my staple piece boyfriend tee from target and a black blazer. I threw on some heels but my legs were sore from running a 5k race earlier in the a.m. (by the way I finished in 33:45), so I decided to throw on my converse instead. What a great choice to make, this expo was huge and I had lots of ground to cover.


This is my 23rd post of the Ultimate Blog Challenge

Its my birthday Part 2!

If you read my last bog here I celebrated my B Day with a dinner party. I decided to keep it going on Saturday on my actual birthday and go dancing. As I get older I don’t really care for clubs and as a matter a fact last time I stepped in a club was about 5 years ago. Boy did I have a blast, I danced the whole night and we shut the club down (LOL).

On this day I wore my sequin slacks from The Loft (sold out) Marisa Sequin Tapered Ankle Pants . I decided to dress them down a little with a black boyfriend tee from Target and throw on a little bling by Forever21, strapy heels, and my clutch by Nnkea Saran. With pants like these you dont have to do to much to make them look great.

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This is my 22nd post of The Ultimate Blog Challenge


I am an absolute Fashion Junkey, so when I came across this cute little Tee with Holy Chic & Chic Happens written across it I had to have one. Well there’s one problem the tee is $228.00, yea you read right $228.00! I love the tee but who in their right mind would pay $228.00 for this tee!

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I’m great with projects and I just knew I could come up with something just as cute for a lower price tag.  So I headed over to my nearest Hobby Lobby and picked up some Iron letters for $3.99 & grabbed a white tee from my drawer. If you go to Hobby Lobby make sure you look for a 40% off coupon here.

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I decide on what I wanted my tee to say and laid the letters out on my tee, grabbed my iron and applied some heat.

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Heres the final product! I love it and can’t wait to wear it, ill make sure I post some pics when I do!

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What would your Chic Tee say?

The is my 18th blog of The Ultimate Blog Challenge

Friend or Faux

Over the years I have had friends come in & out of my life (which isnt a bad thing), like the quote says:

“some friends come into your life for a reason and others for a season”

I sit here and think about some of those friendships, some of them I admit I sometimes miss and others I regret even knowing. I ask my self, what is a true friendship and what makes a person a friend? What type of friend are you!

Three Types of Friendships

  1. Friendships of Usefulness:This is the friend when they only contact you when they need something or want you to support them in something their selling, having or doing.
  2. Friendships of Mutual Interest: This kind of friendship is a particular kind of shared enjoyment. Think of fishing buddies, or exercise buddies, or golf buddies. You and your friend share a common interest or pleasure, and that’s where your friendship is rooted. If you lose interest in that common pleasure, the friendship ends.
  3. Friendships of Virtue. The glue that holds this sort of friendship together is the mutual respect you have for one another. Such respect may even rise to admiration. You value one another as people, and you enjoy one another’s company. You are their friend, not for how they can benefit you or how they can bring you pleasure, but simply because you like them. This is the highest form of friendship. This type of friend doesnt judge you and loves you just they way you are.

So I ask you again what type of friend are you? Are you that friend that never replies to emails, texts, or phone calls? Or maybe that friend you only see  each other on birthdays & celebrations?

I myself love my friends like family (they are part of my family). Over the years our dynamics have changed, having our own families so we don’t see each other as much. Some have grown even stronger over the years and some not so much. As I turn 36 on the 19th of this month I start a new chapter in my life, I will celebrate with some new friends & some old & maybe some not at all.

Just a little food for thought and I leave you with this…

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

— Unknown

So I ask you again what type of friend are you, a reason, season or a lifetime?

Make time for people that are important to you…..

This is my 16th blog of the ultimate blog challenge

Tips on Planning an Event

Besides from being a photographer I am also an event planner (Everything Bella Events). Today I wanted to share some tips to help you plan your next event.

Tips on planning an event

Make sure the purpose for the special event is important enough to merit the time and expense needed to properly stage, publicize and evaluate the event.

Carefully match the type of event that is selected to the purpose that it serves. Do you want to reach out to new users or thank your supporters?

Target groups that have a special stake in the event.

Start planning at least three months, and in many cases, a year ahead of time.

Develop ways to evaluate the event’s success.

Make a checklist

A checklist provides a step-by-step guide to organizing and executing a special event.

Create a budget

The objective is to provide event planners with a financial blueprint. The budget should be specific, and include revenue opportunities (sponsorship, ticket sales, donations. concession sales) as well as expenses printing, permits, insurance, speakers, food. supplies, security).

Consider logistics

With many activities going on simultaneously, there are many details to be checked. Major areas to consider and plan for include: size of space or building used, utility support needed, setup (tables and chairs. tents, portable toilets, parking, signage) coordination, cleanup, emergency plans. transportation, and public services such as police and fire departments.

Plan publicity

Promoting a special event takes creative thinking balanced with practicality. The primary objective is to publicize the event, but secondary objectives should be considered.

Are you trying to inform, educate or entertain?

Increase awareness or attendance of the event?

Build a base support from a specific audience?

Facilitate good community relations?

Brainstorm all the available media in including marquees, school newsletters, church announcements, and cable and commercial stations. Make a detailed list with names of whom to contact and when.

Evaluate the event

Take time to evaluate right after the event while the details are fresh. You may want to consider having a questionnaire for participants to fill out. Some general evaluative criteria include:

Did the event fulfill its goals and objectives? Why or why not?

Identify what worked and what needs fine-tuning. Which vendors should be used again?

What items were missing on the checklist?

Was the event well attended?

Was informal and formal feedback about the event positive?

Given all that went into staging, was it worth doing?

This is the 15th blog from The Ultimate Blog Challenge

Photo Session in mommies wedding dress

My wedding dress has been under my bed for three years, I’ve had people wanting to buy my dress but I just can’t let it go.  So on a random day I needed to test out some new camera equipment and I thought lets play dress up! Of course my baby Sid loved putting on her mommies jewels and wedding dress, she felt like a princess. I just loved how these pictures came out, I plan to blow up a big one and use it in some way for her wedding. Who knows maybe she will even wear my dress since I picked a simple elegant dress (fingers crossed).





In this picture she was one and the ones up top she was 4


This is my 14th blog in The Ultimate Blog Challenge