Friend or Faux

Over the years I have had friends come in & out of my life (which isnt a bad thing), like the quote says:

“some friends come into your life for a reason and others for a season”

I sit here and think about some of those friendships, some of them I admit I sometimes miss and others I regret even knowing. I ask my self, what is a true friendship and what makes a person a friend? What type of friend are you!

Three Types of Friendships

  1. Friendships of Usefulness:This is the friend when they only contact you when they need something or want you to support them in something their selling, having or doing.
  2. Friendships of Mutual Interest: This kind of friendship is a particular kind of shared enjoyment. Think of fishing buddies, or exercise buddies, or golf buddies. You and your friend share a common interest or pleasure, and that’s where your friendship is rooted. If you lose interest in that common pleasure, the friendship ends.
  3. Friendships of Virtue. The glue that holds this sort of friendship together is the mutual respect you have for one another. Such respect may even rise to admiration. You value one another as people, and you enjoy one another’s company. You are their friend, not for how they can benefit you or how they can bring you pleasure, but simply because you like them. This is the highest form of friendship. This type of friend doesnt judge you and loves you just they way you are.

So I ask you again what type of friend are you? Are you that friend that never replies to emails, texts, or phone calls? Or maybe that friend you only see  each other on birthdays & celebrations?

I myself love my friends like family (they are part of my family). Over the years our dynamics have changed, having our own families so we don’t see each other as much. Some have grown even stronger over the years and some not so much. As I turn 36 on the 19th of this month I start a new chapter in my life, I will celebrate with some new friends & some old & maybe some not at all.

Just a little food for thought and I leave you with this…

Reason, Season, or Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

— Unknown

So I ask you again what type of friend are you, a reason, season or a lifetime?

Make time for people that are important to you…..

This is my 16th blog of the ultimate blog challenge


4 thoughts on “Friend or Faux

  1. Great break down on friendship! Some people can get really worked up with the loss of a friendship and are hurt and take it personally, without understanding that God has a purpose of moving people into and out of our lives. When we know this, we can appreciate the friendship for what it is and for its purpose as opposed to focusing on loss or what it is the relationship was lacking! Thanks for persepctive!

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